God is Merciful for that is His Nature

Sermon by Fr. Joseph Mungai, FMH

Divine Mercy Sunday, April 8, 2018

Hospital Chaplaincy, Long Island, New York

We cannot talk of the mercy of God without believing in Jesus Christ as the Son of God who accomplished this mercy in its purest, highest and most loving form.

"Who indeed is the victor over the world but the one who believes that Jesus is the Son of God?" (1John 5:5) In the divine mercy chaplet we repeat the phrase "for the sake of his sorrowful passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world." The entire Easter celebration is about the mercy of God. 

Christ came through water and blood and from these we have the fountain of mercy.

(John 19:34) This mercy of God has been extended in time and space and in eternity; "for his love endures for ever." All sacraments acclaim this mercy particularly Baptism, Eucharist and Confession/Reconciliation.

Jesus himself mandates His Apostles to extend the Mercy of God to people. "Receive the Holy Spirit. Whose sins you forgive are forgiven , and whose sins you retain are retained." (John 20:23) Any Christian who believes in Jesus and in God must also believe in the Sacramental Mercy of God exercised by Jesus Himself through the Holy Spirit in the person of the ordained minister. 

Many Christians, Catholics and non-Christians continue to be doubting Thomas's. They don't believe in the Sacrament of Confession/Reconciliation which is truly the work of the mercy of God. While Thomas doubted that Jesus was alive, visible and risen; we in our turn doubt the same. If we

don't believe in sacramental absolution for our sins or approach the sacrament with fear, then we fail to recognize the risen Lord. And if Christ never rose from the dead it means the mercy of God was in vain.

The mercy of God becomes a mission of being sent out. "As the Father has sent me, so I send you." (John 20:21) Pope Francis -- in the concluded Year of Mercy 2016 -- appointed priests from all over the world and sent them as "missionaries of mercy." These were to be "living signs of the Father's readiness to welcome those in search of His pardon." (Misericordiae Vultus). 

As God shows us His mercy, we also go forth looking for those who need God's mercy. Every now and then we are invited to come for confession. The priests visit the parishes and churches to offer the possibility of the mercy of God. The mission applies also to those who are not ordained ministers. All who are children of God ought to love one another and forgive each other. This is obedience to this mercy of God. "Everyone who believes that Jesus is the Christ is begotten by God, and everyone who loves the Father loves also the one begotten by him." (1John 5:1)

"In this way we know that we love the children of God when we love God and obey his commandments." (1John 5:2) Celebrating the mercy of God does not mean sinning so that his mercy may be shown upon me. It means striving to be obedient to God's command and allowing His mercy to overpower us when --due to our human weakness -- we fall.

The mercy of God is the greatest victory over death, sin, darkness, evil and satan. We are therefore conquerers of the 

mercy of God. "For whoever is begotten by God conquers the world. And the victory that conquers the world is our faith." (1John 5:4) The fact that we believe in Jesus Christ as the Son of God who came to save us from our sins, then already we are victors and fruits of this mercy. How do we become sharers of this mercy of God? 

Since we are followers of Christ we must be witnesses to the society, church, family, nation and the entire world. We must be merciful to those in need and share the God given resources with others.

Being merciful doesn't mean sympathizing with sin, but the sinner; nor sympathizing with falsity, corruption, injustice, but truth, justice and peace. The first Christian community had one soul and one mind. "With great power the apostles bore witness to the resurrection of the Lord Jesus, and great favor was accorded them all." (Acts 4:33) It needs a merciful heart to

sell ones possessions and share them with others. It needs a person of strong faith in the risen Lord to do so. "My strength and my courage is the Lord, and he has been my savior."(Is.12:2) Christians have power to conquer the world through Him who conquered it first.

The Resurrection of Christ is the source of all unity, forgiveness and peace. The first words to His disciples are "Peace be with you." What is peace if not foremost reconciliation and mercy of God. Even when today some nations remain at war, terror within or from

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outside, the peace of God still prevails. God was not pleased in those days by the blood of any animal/human sacrifice to bring peace and forgiveness to the world. There is no need therefore to continue shedding human blood as if it is to save anyone from their sins. Only the blood of Christ son of God is sufficient. 

Be merciful on us Lord.

Readings for the  DIVINE MERCY SUNDAY -- 2nd Sunday of Easter. (Acts 4:32-35; Ps 118; 1Jn 5:1-6; Jn 20:19-31).

Marital Intimacy is Worth the Risk

After Four Forced Abortions,

Ballerina Chooses Life!

by Susan Fox 

Oh she was lovely, the perfect ballerina. But her mother wanted her to stay that way.

So my dear young friend, danced and played and frolicked — with many men.

She got pregnant. Her mother forced her to have an abortion so that her perfect figure would not be marred.

She got pregnant again, and had another forced abortion.

She got pregnant again, and again. In all, she had four abortions, and then she slipped from her mother’s leash and married her dearly beloved Robert, a virgin. He adored her. He had lived a chaste life before marriage, waiting to meet her. When I knew her, we called her the one-armed bandit because she always had her baby daughter in one arm while her other arm was busy doing other things.

She loved her husband. I watched her straighten his tie with deep affection. But she was long past enjoying conjugal intimacy. She told me she was burned out sexually because of her promiscuous life before marriage. 

So she explained to me how they had relations. There are positions in sexual intercourse that are not uncomfortable, but which do not require the active participation of the female partner. The man is able to reach a climax, and his wife need not be involved in the conjugal act.

This story still makes me sad. Intimate relations that give pleasure to both married partners is a gift one spouse surrenders to the other. It is the gift of chastity. Chastity means the successful integration of sexuality within the person and thus the inner unity of man in his bodily and spiritual being, according to the Catholic Catechism. It’s worth fighting for. 

“Sexuality becomes personal and truly human when it is integrated into the relationship of one person to another, in the complete and lifelong mutual gift of a man and a woman.” (CCC 2337) The Catholic Church is not talking about faking a response.

Jane was cheating Robert out of something important — her female passion responding to his masculine initiative. They were not using contraception. They were married, in love, and wanted children. But Jane had previously used men and been an object of use by men, and now she was left with no enthusiasm for sex.Concerning Jane and Robert’s situation, Pope Saint John Paul II said “From the viewpoint of loving another person, from the position of

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altruism, it must be required that the conjugal act should serve not merely to reach the climax of sexual arousal on one side, but happen in harmony, not at the other person’s expense, but with that person’s involvement.”

Strangely enough the Jewish founder of psychoanalysis Sigmund Freud, (1856-1939)  agreed with the Catholic Church on this one point: sexual intimacy should be altruistic. It should combine affection and desire, but a mature person will want, altruistically, the good of his or her partner. And that means both participate in the act. 

Sigmund Freud 

Freud and Pope Saint John Paul II said these things so that people like Jane and Robert would have a guideline on how to lead happy lives. St. Paul cared too, warning couples, “Do not torture your wife! Or your husband!” 

I'm joking. My marital chastity professor often speaks of historical figures who "tortured" their spouses by withholding sex because of scruples. The exact quote of St. Paul is this: “The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband.” (1Cor 7:3) I knew a priest who ran into a couple arguing about this issue in a restaurant. She wanted to stop having intimate relations so she could pursue her prayer life. The priest leaned over their table and told the wife she was wrong. 

Jane’s problem obviously stemmed from the poison in our culture . She rebelled against her

mother by engaging in relationships with multiple partners. Affectionate families are more likely to raise virgins. The poor little dancer did not receive love at home, only adoration for her outward appearance and her ability to perform. I think Robert could have and may have changed that little by little because he did love her. He didn't treat her as an object of use. He treated her as a beloved person,

with whom he intended to stay married exclusively until death. They were both open to new life. That is the Catholic definition of true marriage.

In his article on “Erotic Traps,” famous German sexologist Ulrich Clement  explains  that diminished desire in sexual intimacy is not a lack but a symptom. That’s true. We are talking about a pair of young newlyweds in which the bride does not enjoy sex because of her previous lack of chastity and multiple abortions. 

He also notes that partners fail to communicate about their differences in sexual desire to protect themselves against the risk of being hurt.  Did Jane tell Robert about her trick of not participating? It was something

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she whispered to a female friend on the side. And would Robert, who never had sex before, know something was missing? Maybe with experience and maturity, he would recognise it. Men are thrilled by the noises their wives make when they are responsively involved in their lovemaking.

It’s interesting the way Clement begins his article: “Some people have often firm conceptions, such as the fact that sex must be or should be present in a relationship. But with these conceptions they are building traps, in which the desire is slowly misplaced.” Perhaps the trap in Jane’s relationship with Robert is that they did need a long chaste courtship before marriage. Sex was not immediately necessary. But given her past, it probably didn’t occur to her to insist on such a thing.

Clement is right. If the couple does not bring the underlying problem to the surface and talk about it, it will have lamentable effects in the erotic context. But it need not destroy the marriage especially if the couple had children and practiced Natural Family Planning earlier in their marriage.  NFP has a honeymoon effect.  

What if Jane and Robert later tried Natural Family Planning to postpone a pregnancy after the baby was weaned? This might

have helped their sexual relationship. Jane needed a period of romantic abstinence. She needed courtship without sex. She needed to know she was loved for herself. 

Using NFP, one must abstain for a few days from intercourse during the woman’s fertile period and then one can engage in marital intimacy the rest of the cycle. Practicing NFP requires mutual decision making and deeper communication. Robert might have finally found the key to open Jane’s heart to loving sexual intimacy.

“If the couple does not change their sexual behavior pattern, then they will continue having problems involving sexuality. With certain painful, but nevertheless trusted discontent, the couple remains in the foreseeable comfort zone of their relationship,” Clement wrote. 

Certainly this is true for many couples. Suddenly, the husband of one my friends quit having relations with her and wouldn’t tell her why. Communication in the marriage deteriorated. It appeared they were headed for a divorce, not by her choice.  When a spouse suddenly stops having conjugal relations without explanation these questions arise “Do you still love me? Are we still together?” Many times the problem is a medical one, and the spouse with difficulty is unable to speak about it.

Clement writes about a routine quality in everyday sexuality. Couples who use NFP rarely feel sex is a duty. His viewpoint is the  product of the sexual revolution, pornography, the deadening of hearts, the depersonalisation of conjugal life. 

It is the breaking of the "nuptial bond between man and life" as outlined by Gabriel Marcel in the Mystery of the Family. In short, modern man is bored. Marcel wrote in 1942 about human

beings losing a sense of reverence and awe for life itself because of the dissolution of the family through divorce, contraception, abortion, promiscuity, unchastity, treating man as a machine whose sexuality can be fixed with a pill. Chaste married relations without contraception, open to new life, are rich with joy. Throughout the years of a long relationship, a thousand ways to delight one another will occur to the couple. And only a few of those involve actual sexual intimacy.

Sexologists are not trained to take this perspective. They realise conjugal intimacy happens between persons, but it is not their starting point. Sexual ethics cannot be sexology, a view of man and woman that posits the problem exclusively from the point of view of “body and sex,” wrote Pope Saint John Paul II in Love and Responsibility. “The only fully true view is the one that proceeds from a thorough analysis of 

the fact that a woman and a man are persons, and that their love is a reciprocal relation of persons.” Sexology, focusing on biology, medicine and the efficient climax, can only provide a partial view of the matter.

Many fear that communication about a problem of this nature will risk the relationship, according to Clement. But isn’t the reward of a lifelong happy marriage worth the risk? 

“From nothing, nothing comes. Without investment there is no result,” Clement admonished. I think it is well worthwhile to continue intimate relations throughout the entire marriage barring illness or the rare case when the mutual decision is made to live celibate for the glory of God.

In old age, the NFP couple will already be habituated to voluntary abstinence, so the necessity of living without sex in the midst of illness will not be an undue stress on the marriage. However, if one wants to continue that side of the marriage, the couple must take action. 

“The longer a relationship lasts, the more is eroticism a matter of decision and of active organisation. While with young sex the desire precedes the sexual acting, the decision for desire proceeds with mature sex,” Clement wrote, explaining that marital intimacy needs to be invited into long-term relationships. 

Take the risk.

Bibliography

Clement, Ulrich. “Erotic Traps.” Psychology Heute Journal, (2006)

Wojtyla, Karol. Love and Responsibility. Boston: Pauline Books & Media, 2013.

Marcel, Gabriel. The Mystery of the Family.

     

I AM LOVED BY JESUS

Sermon by Fr. Joseph Mungai, FMH

4th Sunday of Lent, March 11, 2018

Hospital Chaplaincy, Long Island, New York

Pope Francis in pink vestments for Laetare Sunday in Lent

This is the fourth Sunday of Lent, Laetare Sunday. We are to rejoice! 

Life on the earth is full of difficulties. Life is challenging. We partake in many sufferings of Jesus. 

On this joyful Sunday, we are assured of God's love. No matter what I am going through as an individual, God knows all about it. He loves me so much no matter my history.

In the first reading (2Chron. 36:14-16,19-23), the Israelites and their leaders rebelled against God. He did not give up on them but he constantly sent His messengers to warn them. God did not give up give up on the Israelites but he continued watching over them.

Friends, we're very strong and safe when we

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stay  in union with Jesus. The rebelliousness of the Israelites made them vulnerable; they were taken captive for seventy years because of their disobedience.  

However God still intervened, even after they suffered and learnt many lessons. God loves you so much that He came not to condemn, but to save us. You're worth the life of Christ the Lord!

We're often like Nicodemus (Jn 3: 14-21). Though we want to give ourselves to God, we do it, not fully but in bits. We are Nicodemus, when we know of God's love but we want  

revenge. We are Nicodemus when we acknowledge God's generosity but we're still stingy. When we are reluctant in matters of faith we become Nicodemus.  Today, Jesus comes to pull us into the fullness of faith. Let us cling to Jesus. Let's dive into the deep pool of Jesus' love. You will not swim alone. Cling cling to Jesus, He loves you, He is ready to save us.

Don't be cheated. God is a Friend, a Lover, the Beloved waiting and seeking us anytime -- day or night.

Don't be deceived. Go home carrying this message:

  

 I AM LOVED BY JESUS.

Fr. Joe has been relocated from Kenya to Long Island, New York. We wish him blessings in his new mission to the hospitals.